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Mother's Day weekend to remember: Tampa Bay area woman meets birth mom for the first time at TIA

Posted at 5:06 PM, May 09, 2019
and last updated 2019-05-10 07:16:23-04

TAMPA, Fla — Amy Bottomley was raised in the suburbs of Chicago by two parents who loved her very much — a little girl who grew up and moved with her husband and son to Tampa.

She says there’s always been a piece of her heart missing — Thursday, in front of Gate C inside Tampa International Airport, that hole was filled.

She met her birth mom, Kathleen Buchanan, after months of talking on the phone. The connection started after she got the results of her DNA test.

"I am feeling a mix of emotions right now,” she said, as she sat in the seat and waited for her birth mom’s plane to land. “It’s going to be interesting.”

Her hands shake, her heart races — she gets a text that her birth mom has landed and is about to get on the tram over. She’s been waiting for this moment, "My whole life, my entire life, 42 years.”

Her son is there to support her. She tells her moments before that he has her back. “You’ll be right behind me?” she asks before the doors to the tram open. She sees her birth mom flash a giant smile.

"I just couldn’t wait. You know I just couldn’t wait to get my arms around her,” said Buchanan.

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Kathleen Buchanan has been waiting too. She always hoped Amy would reach out.

Buchanan gave her up for adoption on Valentine's Day of 1977. She was only 18, and felt like she couldn’t give her the life she deserved.

"One of the things that you have to except is that it could be forever, you don’t really know,” she said.

But she never gave up hope and even sent a letter days after the adoption to Amy’s new family.

She penned the words on two pieces of paper with hopes Amy would read it one day and understand why she did what she did.

"It was something that I have looked at and read 1 million times over because it was a piece of her,” Amy said.

Amy believes all of this came at the right time. Her husband passed away and she’s has felt lonely. Amy’s adoptive mother gave her a DNA kit for Christmas because she has also kept hope that a connection could one day be made.

"I’ve always been told by my mom who raised me that I’m a strong-willed woman, independent woman. And I am. I always thought I got that from my birth mom,” Amy said.

Her looks too -- she now has a sister Tiffany who is more like a twin. Buchanan can’t believe the resemblance.

"There’s a lot of commonality there and I think this is proof that it’s nature over nurture. That the DNA no matter when you split people apart, the DNA is what it is,” said Buchanan.

They both agree Mothers Day now has a much deeper meaning. They are excited to get to know each other.

The letter Amy wrote on Februrary 20, 1977 in full:

“To my beautiful daughter,
By the time you are old enough to read this I am sure you will also be old enough to understand the reasons behind this.
I gave you up to the good people who are now your parents, not because I didn’t want you but because what I wanted for you I could never have given you.
When I saw you after you were born you were so beautiful and that’s the way I wanted you to stay – physically and emotionally.
I hope at reading this you love me as much as I love you as I write it.
Even as our lives go on, if the situation arises that I have other children don’t ever feel that I could forget you.
Please be good to yourself, to your parents and to me in your thoughts because my decision was the best road to happiness for us all.
I love you,
Your mother.”